Confessions for the Youth Group

1. Sometimes. Every now and again. I think you're too trained. Like there's little personality and so much politeness. But honestly, you're fantastic. You're loving and funny and laid back and I admire so many things about you. You're a role model for me. You always do what's right and are so giving. You're always willing to listen and advise, and I can't thank you enough for that.

2. Darling, you can be a bit judgmental. It's kinda your mom's fault. But it's okay. You're so young. You have so much to learn. But you really are mature for your age and I cannot wait to see the lovely young lady you become. You're so honest and effing hilarious and I've truly enjoyed getting to know you.

3. I was a brat to you. I didn't like being talked about so I avoided you with passionate anger for most of our lives. That was wrong and I'm so sorry. Thanks for, mostly, being kind to me. I wish I'd gotten to know you better. There's lots of good in you, I know that. I hope this year brings more good. 'Cause some serious changes need to be made, I hope you know that. You NEED to be a lot more humble, respectful, and sincere. And some of your bad habits need to stop. You have someone to fight for, so fight for her. THE RIGHT WAY. But in all honesty, for some reason, I have total faith that you can do it.

4. I mean yeah I'm pretty dang jealous of you. 'Cause everyone, EVERYONE, loves you. And you're so pretty and talented and good with kids and so kind and smart. Geez you just walk in a room and the sun shines a little brighter. There's so much good in you, please see it. 'Cause something's not right, hon. There's a darkness in you and, as justified as it may be, it needs to go. You need to talk to someone. You need to seek help. And learn to take advice and criticism. Don't get mad at other people and don't get mad at yourself! Learn to take it, consider it, and use it to better yourself. Also, be an example. And I realize you think this kid is your miracle sent to give you everything you never had, but you can't rely on people like that. Don't become dependent. Realize that he's not the only one who is like that (trust and believe I've WATCHED your family try to connect to you like he does and they just feel so shut out), you just don't WANT anyone but his help 'cause you've romanticized it and that's not okay. I know I'm just a kid to you and this stuff does not matter coming from me but I say it because I love you and I want your star to get out of this lonely dark abyss and shine brighter than anyone ever has before.

5. How did you figure things out so young? Maybe your family just does a good job of painting the picture perfect family. I know you struggle. It's hard. But you got it figured out! I'm so impressed and amazed by you. Thank you for keeping me sane. Keep me updated. You're gonna do such amazing things, and you'll thank your parents and your church and your whole social network and we'll know that it was honestly all God and you. I want to keep you in my life always dear.

6. Frustrate is a good word. Because I do want to get to know you and I wish you acted like you wanted to get to know me. But that's my obsessive personality. And you're introverted so it just makes sense. But I'm glad we can enjoy each other's company. I'm so happy that we are friends, and I'm glad that, even if you don't tell anyone anything, I feel like I actually can talk to you about my life and you're willing to listen. Maybe I can't make you laugh but God knows I try. Honestly, if you weren't going through so much and I knew you had a clear mind, I would've asked you out myself long ago. But this friendship is pretty great. And I know for absolute fact you'll be okay. Son, you are one of the realest people I know. You got this. You're gonna figure it all out and blow everyone's mind with the awesome things you'll do. It'll take a while, maybe a few more years. But you and her and all of us are going to be just fine. It's gonna hurt. Day after day after day you are going to hurt. And then you won't. And it'll be glorious. Sidenote, dunno if you'll ever love anyone the way you loved her. So you may very well end up on your ownsome. But know that that's all on you. Don't ever say it's 'cause you're not good enough. You're a freaking catch. You realize we've almost all had a crush on you at one point, yes? Like, bro. BRO.

7. You are a great person. You make me smile. You're super kind. You're good with kids. You've got a lot going right, my friend. Now, I dunno if your life is where it should be. I'm scared because you may have strayed. But I think you know that. And I think you're getting your priorities in check. I'll keep praying for you. Because I don't want to fear for you. I want you right here with us for all time. It'll be great! I'm also really glad that you've found someone to look up to and be a leader to you. I hope it's of blessing to your life.

8. Babydoll. I do not know how to help you or how to fix what has been so broken. I can't begin. You do need the help. You do. And the longer you deny that, the worse off you'll be. And I do not agree with a lot of your choices. You worry me. But you need to take good care of yourself. You have people to look after now. And I know you will. I see it. You just need to realize you are worth SO MUCH. YOU IS SMART. YOU IS KIND. YOU IS IMPORTANT. Seriously. You are actually so smart. You are crazy talented. You are innovative. You have some of the craziest stories. You're like this odd fountain of knowledge. You are young and learning, but that's okay! As long as you try to learn. Take things in. Don't let the world or ANYONE mold you. You'll find the right path, I know it. And once you find it, I will support you every step. Trust me, you mean loads to us, and you always will.

9. I don't have much to say. You're so young and I don't know you all that well. You're talkative. You're kinda oblivious sometimes. And you're so set in your ways for someone so young. But you're a good listener, a gentleman, talented, smart, friendly, and just pleasant to be around. I like the way you carry yourself. You're also a wonderful brother. Good job, kiddo.

10. You'll find your way. Please ignore what everyone is saying. Stay charming. Stay personal. Stay close and cuddly and affectionate. Stay driven. Stay romantic. But stay respectful. Learn boundaries. Converse and compromise. Emotions are beautiful and wonderful and meant to be shared, but extremes are such a dangerous thing. Learn to balance your feelings and life will follow. Don't apologize for love, but apologize when lines are crossed, feelings are hurt, or words are misunderstood. And remember that you are young and there's plenty of time for God to tell you which path to take. Just keep walking, look out for signs, adjust as necessary, and have faith. And take care of that family of yours.

11. To the three gentlemen who I have left out. My apologies, I do not know you too well. And that may be my own fault, I don't know. But I've enjoyed my time with you. I see a lot of good in you boys. Talent. Kindness. Willingness to learn. Drive. Seriously, I have no doubt you'll all surprise me with incredible things one day. Stay gold, guys. And know that, even if I don't know you so well, I'm always here and happy to be a friend to you.